#1. Realize that Perfect Doesn’t Work
Why Perfect doesn’t work?
Perfect isn’t real. TV shows are fake!! Reality shows are fake!! And as much as movies and celebrities make it seem that life is perfect, but ours are horrible, it’s not true.
It’s so easy to expect “prefect” from people and life. We didn’t get the perfect answer from our boyfriend or mom. We didn’t get the “perfect body” after taking the “magic pill” that some celebrity said it their “trick” to staying thin. We didn’t have a pack of “the bachelors”, chasing us after we sprayed the new “attraction” perfume on. We didn’t get picked to win the contest that we wanted to win so bad.
Learn to laugh when things go un-perfectly.
#2. Stop Being a Prisoner to Perfection
My name is Nicki Jackson, and I used to strive to be a perfectionist.
Yes, I was paralyzed by decision making. “What if I don’t make the perfect choice!”….”I just won’t type a blog, because what if type a dumb one.” “I need to take on a whole hellva lot and do it the best so it goes perfect and everyone will think I’m perfect! But what really happens is that I tend of fail on some level.”
Or people would say, ”what do you feel like eating?”, and I would default to them, “oh whatever sounds good”, YAY! Then I didn’t have to deal with the stress of picking something out. If it was gross, it wasn’t my fault! ha ha ha
I’ve since learned:
*prepare for mistakes and imperfection the sooner you do the happier you’ll be.
*If you know stuff is gonna go wrong, things aren’t gonna play out like a dream or a movie all the time, the more peaceful you'll be when they do go a little of plan!
*Prepare yourself, and just roll with the changes. It’s better to be the willow that bends in the wind, than the stiff tree that snaps and breaks in the breeze! Don’t break, just bend!
#3. IMPERFECT IS HOW WE BECOME GREAT
Pearls are made from some dirt (garbage) that’s gotten trapped in an oyster. As it’s trying to deal with this “problem”, it gets turned into a beautiful pearl. Same thing with diamonds, from all the incredible pressure, the carbon get “uncomfortably” turned into something so valuable and sparkling, that people pay huge amounts to gaze as these and delight in the beauty of their twinkle.
My life has been events that have caused my mirror to shatter, but as I’ve try to pick up the broken pieces of my life, all those little shattered parts give off more sparkle, shine and light than before when it was more “perfect”!
If you feel that your life, your choices, the people are you, your home, your job, anything is far from perfect. Say YAY! I’m in great company. The most incredible people have come out of things that were far from perfect.
So you didn’t have the dream start to things: your first day of school, making your dreams happen, , you can’t seem to get your life going how you want. It’s ok. I’ve been in more imperfect situations, relationships (i could go on)...but in all those moments, I try and try and try again to say to myself “this is going to make me better, stronger, and more able to endure the challenges that greatness requires.
#4. YOU’RE NOT IN A DARK CAVE OF HOPELESSNESS, BUT A TUNNEL WITH A BRIGHT ENDING.
“DARK MOMENTS ARE SHORT HALLWAYS, LEADING TO SUNLIT ROOMS!”
Sometimes it feels like we’re in a dark cave, with no signs of hope, or an exit, but life is not a cave, but a tunnel. And at any moment, that tunnel can take a quick turn, where you can’t see the light yet, but as soon as you keep going, you see the rays of light and hope showing you the way to go. (I read something like that somewhere once LOL)
REMEMBER:
CHOOSE TO LOVE- rather than hate
CHOOSE TO SMILE - rather than frown
CHOOSE TO BUILD- rather than to tear down
CHOOSE TO PERSEVERE -rather than give up
CHOOSE TO PRAISE - rather than gossip
CHOOSE TO HEAL - rather than wound
CHOOSE TO GIVE - rather than than get
CHOOSE TO ACT - rather than delay
“I want you to let go of all your insecurities. I want you to reject anyone or anything that ever made you feel like you didn’t belong or didn’t fit in or you won’t somehow ever be great. I want you to say no to all those things tonight.
People used to tell me I wasn’t thin enough, not pretty enough, you can’t sing well enough, dance well enough, you can’t write songs well enough, you’re too weird, you dress funny. And I used to say “I’m a superstar and I was fucking born that way!”
You’re 20,000 superstars and just looking up at some bitch on the stage that maybe you’ll be one day, just like I was. So when you leave tonight don’t leave loving me more, leave loving yourself more.” --- Lady Gaga
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